The Journey within..it never ends
I read a quote that goes:
"Tell everyone you know: 'My happiness depends on me, so you're off the hook.' And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they're doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel- and then, you'll love them all. Because the only reason you don't love them, is because you're using them as your excuse to not feel good."
Wow! What a profound quote, it hit me like bricks raining from the sky while walking without any cover close by. The truth of it is raw and real. It's the realization that the reason your wound is not healing is all because of you.
The journey of self discovery is beautiful and if on the correct path the scenery can really knock your breath out of your lungs because you begin to see yourself as art. The above quote has got all parts of me de-tangling because you see as humans, many of us tend to attach every feeling, every action, reasoning, etc to another human. Our expectation are ridiculous to say the least. We expect so much from everyone in our lives, all these expectations that we ourselves cant even live up to or do for ourselves. We expect someone to love us when we don't love ourselves, We expect someone to make us happy when we don't know how to be happy ourselves. All these external forces that we expect to help with the healing and filling of something that is so internal. we need to be realistic and let go of attachments but instead attach to our own happiness, our own souls because if we don't we will always find an excuse to be miserable and never fully understand the depths of our own souls. This quote just sums up what we as humans need to do in order to figure out the greater question of who we are, what's our purpose and what is it that happiness really is.
We need to let people off the hook, let them be at ease with not having expectations to do the impossible, hanging over their heads. By doing this we place a greater responsibility on ourselves for our happiness, the beauty of that is that if they want to add to that happiness then that's phenomenal, like a bonus. And if they don't want to add to that then it will be okay because it will not decrease your currency of happiness that you have already achieved within and if you ask me that is really a gem, the ability to never let anyone or anything decrease your happiness. This could probably be the breakthrough for us to let go of issues such as insecurities, abandonment issues, to name a few.
So let us let go of our expectations, let go of the attachments we have, release people from the stronghold we have over them in terms of being responsible for what is not their responsibility. Let us journey onto making a fortress where we cultivate a garden of happiness within ourselves, a place no one can destroy, so deep within us that no one can touch it, yes they can experience the beauty of it and we can give them the flowers from our work but not one of them has the power to change that because we will sustain that.
To the people that I have held accountable for my happiness, I apologize and more than anything I apologize to him...
No poem can make up for the expectations that were held over your head
so here's a sincere and purely honest apology instead
I'm sorry, I truly am.